Grief Without Tears: Why You Can't Cry

You wait for the tears to come — at the funeral, at home, at night — and they don't. Inside it's empty and quiet, and that quiet becomes frightening: am I feeling nothing at all? Am I a bad person? The absence of tears is a common part of grieving, and it measures neither love nor the depth of your loss.

Why the tears don't come

There are many reasons, and almost all of them are about protection, not coldness.