Losing Yourself in Relationships and Motherhood: How to Get Yourself Back

You don't notice it right away. At first it's just a lot to do, then just not enough time, and then it turns out that when someone asks "what do I actually like?" there's no answer. Dissolving into a partner or a child doesn't happen in a single day and almost never out of ill will. But getting yourself back doesn't mean giving up the people you love.

How the "I" gets lost

In relationships and in motherhood alike, losing yourself follows a similar path: your wants get set aside for someone else's needs. First once, then again, then it becomes a habit, and the habit becomes the norm.