Avoidant Attachment. Why You Run From Intimacy

You're not cold. You just learned that intimacy is dangerous.

Avoidant attachment is when closeness triggers a desire to escape. Not because you don't love. But because closeness = loss of control = pain = better not to risk it.

You may seem self-sufficient, independent, strong. That's what everyone thinks. But inside, you've just learned not to need people. Because when you did need them, you weren't heard. Or you were punished for weakness. Or they disappeared once you got attached.