Anxious + Avoidant: Why You Found Each Other

One fears losing the other, the other fears losing themselves. And both suffer.

Anxious and avoidant is the classic pairing, appearing more often than you'd think. She fears being abandoned, so she clings. He fears being consumed, so he withdraws. And they fall into a dance they can't escape.

She texts every hour. He replies after three. She panics and sends more. He feels pressure and pulls further away. She cries and pleads. He retreats into himself. She accuses. He stays silent. And so it goes in circles.