How to communicate with a partner who has a different attachment style

Their fears are not about you. Your fears are not about them. But you both suffer when you don't understand each other.

When you have different attachment styles, communication becomes a nightmare. They say one thing, you hear another. You do what feels like love to you, but feels like pressure to them. They do what feels like respecting space to them, but feels like rejection to you.

The issue isn't that you're not meant for each other. The issue is that you're speaking different languages. And each of you thinks the other is doing it on purpose. "He's ignoring me." "She's suffocating me." In reality, you are both just protecting yourselves in your own way.